Outgrowing-

I love being comfortable. Who doesn’t? 

Staying within the boundaries that seem safe and tested makes me feel at ease and peaceful. They keep me protected; they harbor me from harm's way. At least that’s what I think about my little box of familiarity. 

When you’re life has been shaken unexpectedly, and you’re forced to pick up the broken pieces of yourself that shattered during those sudden turbulent times, being safely sheltered in a “comfort zone” forever feels tempting. 

It offers you stability and promises predictability. After barely gluing yourself back together, both seem like a luxury. 

Oftentimes, it might not even seem like you’re actively trying to stay in that zone. The coffee you have every morning, the shoes you still wear even though they’ve been worn out, and maybe even a person you keep gravitating towards; they’re all just manifestations of comfort. 

It gets confusing. 

Do I like doing this and am I content? Or am I just scared of change?

The truth is - it takes time. It takes time to figure out your wants and your dreams. It takes time to realize that you no longer need that person. It takes time to find yourself. 

And that’s okay. 

Some people are blessed with the ability to easily break free from the boundaries they’ve built. However, for those of us who need a few more nights of overthinking and days of questioning, there’s no rush. 

Learning to trust that you’ll be alright with change - after a long period of avoiding it- is never easy. But with a little support and encouragement, change won’t seem as daunting anymore.

After all, every flower blooms on its own time.